Everyone
gets angry at sometime in his or her life over something that happens. However, anger is a negative emotion that
leads to feelings of sadness, guilt, frustration, unhappiness and helplessness.
Anger is an emotion which we must recognize and be able to let go in order to
be happy and successful in life, finding a resolution for the anger is
essential in being able to let it go and move on. Knowing what you are actually
angry with helps, do you feel angry at another’s actions or are you angry at
your own reaction? Finding out what actually upsets you is an important factor
in actually narrowing down what it is that is bothering you. The more you
practice controlling your anger the easier it becomes to let it go and move on
and by learning to control your anger you are effectively learning to take
control over your life and happiness. Here are 7 top tips for gaining control
over your anger.
1.
When
you feel anger beginning to build up inside of you, let your whole body droop
and relax to the best of your ability while beginning to breathe from the
diaphragm, breathing in this way helps to calm both the body and mind which
leads to letting go of the anger before it takes a hold.
2.
Ask
yourself if being angry and working yourself up is going to make any difference
to the situation, for example if someone cuts in front of you, is it really
going to change anything if you curse and blow your horn. Is it worth stressing
yourself?
3.
Visualize
a stress free zone in your mind, this should be a place where you feel totally
relaxed and calm and a place which only you knows about where you can quickly
go too when you feel anger beginning to build up inside. It can be a totally
imaginary place or one that you have visited in life where you feel totally
relaxed and at ease.
4.
When you feel anger beginning to build up due
to someone else’s actions think of yourself doing exactly the same thing as
they did, would you be angry with yourself if you were the one doing it?
5.
Realize
that it’s you and you alone that is allowing the anger to build up inside of
you, while it may have been caused by someone else, you chose to let it bother
you and to get angry.
6.
Counting
to 10 really can help to diffuse anger, by concentrating on counting you are
forgetting what happened and are consciously letting anger go.
7.
Repeat
an affirmation or mantra to yourself whenever you feel anger beginning to build
up inside, for example tell yourself to “take it easy”, “I feel calm and
relaxed”, “anger isn’t going to get me anywhere” or “let it go”. Affirmations
can help to diffuse your anger and get you back on the right track to thinking
in a more positive and calming way.
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